Monday, 1 September 2014

HO LOVER: about dating & friending sex workers (by Sunny)

Hello All - Here is an essay written by Sunny. He has very kindly (and very generously) permitted us to reproduce this work here it its entirety. We first came across this piece at the London Queer Magazine Fair. Self-published, it caught our attention... Fantastic writing, full of insight!

Well done Sunny & Thank you for allowing us to share this here.

Love & Kisses,

Nina & Aidan xXx

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I have been asked a bunch of times if it’s hard to have sex workers as lovers. Does it make me feel insecure about our sex? Do I get jealous? Do they get sick of sex? Do I worry about my sexual health? Before I address some of these questions, I want to instead question why the queries are always about negative things. I don’t understand why not many people say – “wow, you’re so lucky – that must be amazing”, or “tell me about all the great things you must get to experience”, or even simply, “congratulations, sex workers rock!” So I want to start with some of the many ways I have greatly benefited from having sex workers as lovers and friends.

ABOUT WHO IS WRITING THIS

Firstly though, a few words about my location in this topic. I'm a white queer trans-guy of mongrel class background (had a single mum who financially struggled and who grew up poor and a rags-to-riches dad who grew up working class, was middle class when I was young and is now wealthy). I have lots of sex worker friends and have dated or had casual delicious somethings with a bunch of sex workers including escorts, dominatrixes, strippers, sensual masseurs and people who've made porn. The majority of these sex workers have been femme identified women. They have mostly had some layers of privilege which means they've had more control over their work than more marginalised sex workers (just like privilege often brings more control in other professions too). Most of them have had really crappy experiences with at least some of their loved ones in terms of reactions to their work. Sometimes I'm sure I have been that crappy loved one. I am not attempting to speak on behalf of sex workers – only they can do that. I do not believe sex workers should have to do all the tedious/painful work of educating others (unless they choose to), so this is my way of doing some of the work necessary to keep myself accountable and to support non-sex worker friends and lovers in challenging sex work stigma within relationships and beyond.

WHY SEX WORKERS ROCK!

Ooh, there's so many reasons sex workers rock! Because I'm writing this article partly to challenge some people's idea that it's difficult being with sex workers, I'm going to focus on the ways I benefit from having sex worker lovers and friends. Firstly; the most obvious – sex workers are often skilled hot lovers / play buddies! They are sex/play professionals. Like any field, sex work takes time, experience and training to excel at. Sex workers pay attention to learning how to make people feel good – physically and emotionally. Also, some sex workers have experience working with clients with various disabilities which makes them more capable of having hot sex with lovers with disabilities. Ooh if I had a dollar for every time I have thought to myself “I am so fucking lucky” (and not just when I’m coming). I want to point out that not all sex workers like sex, or are experts at sex – and assuming they are can put an undue amount of pressure on them to be sexperts (see the tips section below for more detail about this).

Part of these professional skills involve not only the physical techniques of how to get someone off, they also include figuring out what someone’s needs are, either verbally or through paying attention to body language and other cues. Negotiations with my whore lovers about what we each want and need have often been radically easier than with non sex worker lovers. This also extends to negotiating consent – making sure that we are each comfortable and safe during our time together and that we are able to communicate (through various ways) how we are feeling throughout.

One of the things I’m most grateful to my sex worker lovers and friends for is the deep unlocking of my own sexuality. The dominant culture ideas I’ve been steeped in about sex have left me with a lifetime of shame and secrecy to dismantle. As a survivor of sexual assaults (some of which I didn’t tell anyone about for over 10 years), the layers I’ve had to peel back have been greatly helped by my relationships with sex workers. The opportunity to have consensual, loving, skilled (and hot) sex with my lovers has helped my body to heal from these experiences.

Also, as someone trying to find ways to responsibly and hotly express my masculinity within sex with women/femmes I cannot even begin to describe how amazing the space opened up by my femme whore lovers has been. Why am I giving airspace to my evolving masculinity? I believe that creating new models of feminist masculinity are completely necessary in actualising a feminist world. Also because I am interested in healing. As a first priority, supporting the healing of women and femmes who are brutally and subtly hurt by the patriarchy. And seconly recognising the ways the patriarchy hurts and incapacitates all people including masculine gendered people. As most of the clients of my sex worker lovers have been male and masculine, some of my lovers are experienced in and open to the myriad of masculine sexualities and identities. The way one of my lovers in particular has been able to hold a space where I get to consensually explore and express non-patriarchal masculinity within our fucking and play has been a significant sexual healing for me. And I belive this in turn allows me to be more feminist through being less hung up on figuring out my masculinity and spend more time supporting women and femmes in my life (both sex workers and non sex workers. Now, what was that you were asking about what is hard for me? Shit, I know something’s hard, and it sure as hell ain’t the difficulties.

I’ve also had the awesome opportunity to unpack some of my ideas about sex. I didn’t even realise that I had been carrying around subtle and not-so-subtle socially perpetuated messages about the destructiveness of sex. Relationships with sex workers have enabled me to see the power of sex, which can be amazingly positive when harnessed consensually and responsibly. As an example, I went through a political training program during which I specifically chose to not pursue any crushes while the program was running. I thought that fucking my peers would be counterproductive to my studies and the greater purpose of the political education. When one of my lovers did the same training the following year she discussed the possibility of making out with/romancing/sleeping with a few of her fellow program participants. I felt concerned for the impact this would have on her learning and on the group. Through the evidently amazing interactions she had in this course and a very smart article she wrote about sex-negative attitudes in the course, I got to witness the potential for sex to provide comfort and connection, rather than causing trouble. In her critique, my lover points out the ways that having intimate connections with people can nourish and strengthen political work by engaging each other in the struggles of our lovers and friends. For example, I wouldn’t be writing this article if I didn’t have such kick-arse relationships with whores.

I have found my lovers and friends who are sex workers to be mostly really amazing listeners, healers and fabulous at providing support and care. Whilst I also recognise the particular responsibilities I have as a masculine guy in making sure that this care is exchanged consensually and with an analysis of patriarchy, I have GREATLY enjoyed and benefited from having the care, support and counseling skills of such amazing professionals.

I’ve benefited from how mobile and flexible some forms of sex work can be. I’ve had some inter-state and international lovers and friends who have been able to travel to my city to visit me, because their work is more flexible and transportable than mine. It's important to note though that not all sex workers are mobile, like if they work for an agency, strip club or massage parlour where they need to book time off, or if they are marginalised in ways which prevent their mobility.

As a slutty man, it's also been a total delight to get to have partners who have deeply supported my sluttiness. This included when sometimes it's gotten me into trouble - once I had a significant sexual health scare, and I was able to turn to my lover for support. She had an array of resources and had dealt with a similar incident and her care came with a deep non-judgementalness, which I don't think would have been possible had she not had her opinions about sex informed by her work. I am so grateful that I had her at my side during this experience.

And importantly, I love sex workers BECAUSE and INCLUDING what they do for work (not inspite of) – for many sex workers it’s part of who they are, and not something I can just remove and claim to love the rest of them. If you’re having a hard time with your lover or friend being a sex worker, I’d challenge you to write a list of all the things you love/ like about that person, and I would bet that a huge percentage of those things are also things they apply to/ learn from their work. Go on, I dare you.

I want to acknowledge that because I've dated sex workers with relative layers of privilege who have had more control over their work, I haven't had experiences like supporting a partner who has been subject to criminal arrest. I also haven't dealt with other things like the implications of being in a common law or legal marriage where the sex worker partner is not paying taxes and the impact this can have on both partners.

SOME TIPS

Here are some things I’ve found useful either through my own experience or through the generosity of sex workers in telling me. Many of these ideas could can be used in my relationships with non-sex workers too!

Disclosure to others: always ask if it’s ok to disclose to others (family, co-workers, friends etc) that your lover/friend is a sex worker. The world is a hostile place for sex workers. They have lost their jobs, been assaulted, jailed, shamed, looked down upon and humiliated by people who hate sex workers. So don’t assume that it’s ok to tell other people, even if you would think that person would be open and react well. Ask if there are general rules for who you can tell or if they’d like you to check in every time before telling someone.

Frequency of sex: understanding that, just like non-sex workers, a sex worker may not want to have as much (or any) sex on particular days – especially when they are working. Or conversely, they may in fact want more sex after they have worked, as a way of coming down from work. This may extend to wanting/ not wanting you to be flirtatious with them or making sexual references. This is not that different to the myriad of other reasons why a non-sex worker lover, may not want to have sex on a particular day – like being tired, pre-occupied, sad or just not feeling sexual. Some specific suggestions:

•Focus on how you can be responsible for your own sexual needs if your lover is not in the mood to have sex. Jack off. Get another lover (if you are non-monogamous). Watch porn. Pay for sex. Or accept that you can’t always get what you want. If you have layers of privilege (like being white, male, masculine, cisgendered, class privileged etc) which have taught you to feel entitled to someone else's body and/or sex, this will probably do you some good anyway!

•Ask your lover questions about what they want - “are there any things that generally do/don’t feel good when you’ve been working?”, “would you prefer to be the one to initiate sex on those days?”, “would you prefer I didn’t flirt or make sexual references?”, “do you like to be cared for/ pampered when you come home from work or would you like physical space?” Etc.

•Get to know patterns with your lovers – whether they’re likely to not want sex/ sex talk/ flirting and generally for how long after working. This doesn’t replace checking in with them and establishing consent each time, but can cut down on the amount of communicating you need to do.

Safer space: there are lots of ways you can participate in making spaces safer for sex workers. For example:

•House- I’ve recently started asking potential new housemates or houses where I’m interviewing for, what their feelings and opinions are about sex work. I do this in the same way I check-in about whether people I’m going

to be living with are: feminist, anti-racist, anti-capitalist etc. I pro-actively seek out living situations which I know will be supportive of the professions of my lovers and friends.

•Forewarning: ask if your lovers want you to forewarn others (like your family or friends) that they are sex workers, so that they don’t have to go through annoying and potentially hurtful first reactions. Sex workers are often left to educate those around them about sex work – this can be tiring and frustrating. Forewarning people allows them to ask you their questions, and to process the information before they meet your sex worker lover. Don’t just assume this is ok though – even if your lover has consented to you telling others, intentionally doing so to forewarn people may feel patronising.

Have the difficult conversations: in order to be articulate about the amazingness and value of sex workers and combat negativity/ oppression that I hear from friends and family, I listen to and read the words of sex workers to learn more about how to challenge sex work stigma when I hear it and see it. See the resources section at the end.

Safer sex: Like in any relationship, it's absolutley your right to negotiate whatever precautions you want with your lovers. However, assuming that sex workers are any more likely to have STIs than other people is both inaccurate and offensive. I’ve learnt a huge amount about safer sex practices from sex workers. Far from the irritating question: “but don’t you worry about getting an STI from your lover?” – shit, I have never met a bunch of people more invested in and skilled at preventing the transmission of STIs. After all, many sex workers are the safe sex experts! Do you know how to check out someone’s bits for STI’s? No I mean like really. I had no idea you could squeeze someone’s dick and look at the discharge to give you clues! It’s also a very normal and comfortable part of my sex with some of my whore lovers to check out each other’s genitals and discuss anything questionable. Also, if you're concerned about the sexual health of yor sex worker partner – I'd actually question yourself about why you're REALLY concerned. Is it actually whore-phobia? I ask this because for the last few years I have been a very slutty man – I have more sex than many of my sex worker lovers & friends but because I don't get paid for my sex, I am rarely subject to scrutiny about my sexual health from potential new lovers. What's going on here? (W-H-O-R-E-P-H-O-B-I-A)

I've been in non-monagomous relationships for a long time no and I'm used to negotiating safer sex agreements – I do this because both I and my lovers sleep with other people – not because they're getting paid to sleep with other people! If you're not used to negotiating this sort of thing, I suggest you first educate yourself on STI transmission (look up websites, pick up some pamplets from your local testing centre, do a workshop) then figure out which risks you are and aren't prepared to take, and negotiate accordingly. Safe sex is a totally legitmate thing to communicate about – although recognise that you may need to be extra sensitive with how you negotiate boundaries/ safer sex practices, because it's possilbe your sex worker lover has had upsetting experiences of being perceived to be 'diseased' by other lovers or potential lovers. For example, you may specify to them that these are your safer sex practices with everyone. Rather than having to ask my lovers for details on what they get up to with other people (like what their safer sex practices are – which may feel invasive or just plain tedious to constantly negotiate), personally I find it easier to assume EVERYONE I sleep with (whether they get paid or not to fuck other people, whether they've been tested or not) could potentially have or contract an STI, so my safer sex practices take this into account. Likewise, in fact it could be ME that contracts an STI so I also make sure my safer sex practices are less likley to pass things on to all my lovers. The consequence of me passing on an STI to a lover who is a sex worker could be them not being able to work for an extended period of time while they seek treatment.

Asking about work: there's a fine line between asking someone validating questions about their work and fetishising or demanding education or fascination value. What is ok to ask sex workers will vary with individuals. Usually before I know someone well enough to know what these boundaries are, I ask general non-invasive questions, like 'how was work last night?' To completely ignore someone's profession and not ask them any questions about their work can be hurtful, offensive and a likely demonstration of stigma/disapproval. I ask all my non-sex workers friends/lovers about work – why shouldn't I also ask my sex worker lovers and friends? Here are some questions which are probably likely to be invasive, tedious, boring or offensive - “how much did you make?”, "do you get tested?", "does your family know?" "how did you get into that?" "do you have a pimp?" "so do you work on the street?" "aren't you afraid of getting hurt?" "you might have a choice but what about those who don't?" Whilst some sex workers may be happy to answer some of these questions, particularly to friends they know who are exploring the possibility of being sex workers themselves, ask with caution and check-in about what questions are ok to ask specifying why you want to know. If your reason if for education or curiosity, educate yourself first by reading some of the amazing things sex workers have written (see resource section).

Sexperts: even though I acknowledged earlier that often sex workers are skilled hot lovers, don't assume that just because your lover or potential lover is a sex worker, that means they must know everything about sex. I know some sex workers who feel under pressure to have instant fabulous, hot sex with people. Many sex workers, just like everyone else, get nervous about sex with a new lover. And similarly, that means you don't have to feel intimidated or inadequate about the possibility that they may have had more sex than you.

But is sex work feminist? Ooh this question makes my blood boil! As a proud feminist man, it devastates me that many feminist movements have been some of the fiercest opponents of sex work. Firstly, very few other jobs get the same political probing applied. Do we ask 'is cleaning feminist?', 'is being a solicitor feminist?', 'is being a teacher feminist'. Folks – we live in a CAPITALIST PATRIARCHY! Women are more or less exploited in whatever profession– especially women of colour, women who are trans, poor women, fat women, women with disabilities... So why should we apply an extra lense of feminist analysis to sex work?

Anti-sex work feminism also assumes that all sex workers are doing their jobs because they have no other choice.

1.Some sex workers do their jobs because they enjoy it.

2.Some sex workers don't enjoy their work and don't have better "choices" because of the aformentioned white supremist capitalist patriarchy – so it's not sex work that's oppressive, but rather the context that they live in that gives them few other good options!

So all feminists would be much better off putting their energy into fighting capitalism, patriarchy and racism and supporting the amazing work of sex workers to have their own autonomy rather than trying to 'rescue' sex workers. Because sex workers have been subjected to so much rejection, scrutiny, demonisation or attempted rescue from feminists, to even vaguely question, insinuate or imply that your whore lover or friend is not feminist could be super hurtful.

Challenging misconceptions about sex work and violence: a quote from a sex worker, Juliet November, "there is nothing intrinsically dangerous, damaging or violent about providing a sexual service for money. Just like any other industry, what are dangerous are the conditions that some folks work in – so some workers with more relative privilege (e.g. middle class, cisgendered) have great working conditions where they have a lot of control over their work. Some sex workers with less privilege in society (e.g. Indigenous, trans) have a lot less control over their work and face much higher risks of discrimination and violence. What is certain is that the criminalization and stigmatization of sex work puts sex workers at risk of police violence and in vulnerable positions if they are victims of partner violence. Many women (and others) are assualted, coerced and hurt more frequently within their intimate domestic relationships – by lovers, spouses, partners than by clients. We need to listen to what sex workers most directly impacted by violence are saying about how to make their whole lives safer.”

• Sex workers themselves are best placed to educate, support and equip each other with the community and tools to combat violence against sex workers, both in their work lives as well as in their personal lives. Be very mindful before you ask a sex worker about their safety that you are not assuming all danger comes from strangers, clients or from their work. What about their family and friends? What about their partners who ask othering, exoticizing questions? Are they coping with the violence of

discrimination in their community? With partners who are judgmental? Maybe they're having a fine or boring or whatever time at work but need your support around sex worker discrimination —DON'T ASSUME.

•If you'd like to work as an ally for sex worker rights, support sex worker led collectives and organisations (donate money, do the boring work for them...). Be aware of the need for and right to have sex worker only spaces and time. Don’t assume that because you are supportive your presence won’t impact on sex workers ability to speak and organise openly. Be careful which organisations you support though, many well- intentioned but misguided organisations that claim to support sex workers are actually run by non-sex workers and operate from a 'rescue' frame of mind.

Don't assume what someone's reasons are for doing sex work. Some whores do it because they love it. Others because it pays the bills and leaves them time to spend with their kids. Other's because it's the best option available in a white supremist capitalist patriarchy (translation: everyone needs money to survive and it's much harder to get decent jobs if you're one or more of the following: woman, poor, person of colour, trans... sex work is a very viable option for many people). Also, sex work like phone sex, peep shows and porn work can be a good option for some people who don't have access to paid work because of their disability or their physical/mental/emotional capacity to do other work within a capitalist system.

Genuineness: Just because someone fucks (or strips or spanks…) for money, doesn’t mean their interactions with clients are ingenuine. Beliefs and ideas which perpetuate this are unfair, unhelpful and call into the question the integrity of sex workers not just within paid interactions but also beyond. Sex workers provide an important service, part of which may include making a client feel good about themselves in a world which may make them feel ashamed of their bodies, desires and vulnerabilities. Just because the exchange is for money that doesn’t mean the interaction is necessarily any less genuine. Do you question the genuineness of professional child care workers or doctors? And maybe there are some parts of work that sex workers “fake” it through – so what? I bet everyone does to some extent. I had a lot of customer service jobs (supermarkets, fast food…) – shit if I wish I had a dollar for every smile that I faked! Do you question the supermarket cashier when they smile at you? Probably not. Early on in my experience with sex workers as lovers, I had some thoughts jump into my head – “are they faking it with me”? Everytime I had that thought, I reminded myself of how it wasn’t any more or less likely than it was that I was faking a smile to them.

A FINAL FEW WORDS: MAKING MISTAKES

I don't claim to be any sort of expert on how to be a good friend/ lover to sex workers. What I've learnt has been through the generousity of sex workers in sharing with me, having relationships (friendships and lover-ships) with sex workers, reading & listening to the lived experience and political analysis of sex workers and also through messing up. I'm learning more and more about how to both be accountable and also kind on myself when I do mess up. Being accountable for making a mistake means:

1.deeply listening without defensiveness to the experiences of and impact on the person who was hurt (if they want to share this),

2.clearly acknowledging how you messed up (without making excuses or subtely expecting support for how bad you feel about it),

3.apologising,

4.doing work to come up with suggestions of ways you could address your behaviour/ mistake/ make amends,

5.listening to the wishes of the person who was hurt,

6.taking the agreed upon steps,

7.and having a process for re-checking in over time (for example - 'would you like me to bring this up again or would you like to be in control of when we check in about it?').

This process may be very quick if the hurt was minor, or you may need to invest a bunch of energy over a long period of time if the issue was more serious. Sometimes the person may not want to have a process with you, in which case you will need to respect their wishes (including no contact), reflect on and modify your own behaviour so that it doesn't happen again. There are some great resources on accountabilty, mostly for sexual assault incidents – but similar principles can be used in any case where someone has caused someone else hurt). For example: the last chapter in the Color of Violence anthology and the resource list on the INCITE! webpage http://www.incite- national.org/index.php?s=114

RESOURCES BY SEX WORKERS

There's a bunch of amazing resources that you can follow up & educate yourself (rather than hassling your friends or lovers to educate you).

Web-based Resources:

•www.boundnotgagged.com

•Mariko Passion - http://marikopassion.wordpress.com/

•Hexy's Blog: http://www.hexpletive.com/

•http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2010/04/27/sex-work-sexual-assault-awareness-and-the-danger-of- misconceptions/

•http://www.harlots-parlour.com/

•weasiansexworkers.wordpress.com

•Every Ho I Know Says So http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FTdBXLCo1Qk

•Cyd Nova's blog - http://cydnova.wordpress.com

•Juliet November’s blog - http://bornwhore.wordpress.com/

•Lusty Day's blog www.lustyday.com

•Clip by Laurie Anderson 'The Economic Exploitation of Women' http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WGO35p7zTjY

•sexworkerspresent.blip.tv

•Emi Koyama www.eminism.org especially "Instigations from the Whore Revolution" and "Surviving the With Hunt" (USA)

Organizations:

•Empower Foundation, Thailand. www.empowerfoundation.org

•DMSC, India. www.durbar.org

•Maggie’s: The Toronto Sex workers Action Project. www.maggiestoronto.ca

•Sex Professionals of Canada. www.spoc.ca

•Women with A Vision, New Orleans, USA. www.wwav-no.org

•Stella, Montreal. www.chezstella.org

•Davida, Rio De Janeiro, Brazil. davida.org.br

Books/ Magazines:

•Laura Agustín's Sex at the Margins (www.lauraagustin.com)

•Scarlot Harlot's Unrepentent Whore

•Spread magazine (now defunct—formerly published in USA) http://www.spreadmagazine.org/

Performance/ artists:

•Debby Doesn't Do if For Free (Australia) - www.debbydoesntdoitforfree.org/

•Mirha-Soleil Ross (Canada) - Yapping Out Loud: Contagious Thoughts from an Unrepentant Whore.

•Kirk Reid (USA) http://www.kirkread.com

•San Francisco Sex Worker Festival - www.sexworkerfest.com/


Lots of Love,

Nina & Aidan x

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Tuesday, 25 March 2014

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About the Meeting
Score: 10/10

...okay before I start on this mammoth write....I truly believe we connected...I was offered everything from drinks to showers, and not once did I feel rushed.....AW ......get all escorts to act like this and things would run like clockwork....I can't express how great these two are....unreal, friendly, natural, funny, quirky, sincere and damn right fucking horny....(think you might get my drift by now)....get booking (but not all at once as I want more of these two!!

okay....guys and dolls now for the filthy stuff....

if any guys...women or couples ever want to meet a seriously natural (although their profile might seem they are hardened pro's) couple who obviously are into each other and but love playing with others...these two are premier league status....

I turned up on time after some great mails and a couple of texts to plan the meeting..to be greeted at the door by quite a wonderful sexy young French lady Nina...(.door closed) and a passionate kiss...that I knew was going to lead to a lot more almost instantly...introduced to aidan with a big hug....offered a glass of wine...but driving lead to a black coffee...( going to bring bottles of wine on the train, next time)..

we chatted about past experiences, likes and turn ons" ....as if was the most natural stuff to talk about when you meet strangers you are about to fuck...quite weird really...so easy to get on with...we laughed a lot and set the tone for what was about to come...I excused myself to the bathroom upstairs and on returning Nina was dressed in a skin tight rubber latex dres with fishnets and heels....holy shit so so so sexy...Aidan grinning from ear to ear ....because no doubt he has seen this before ( lucky bastard...and so would I)...

Nina curled up next to me and we chatted a little more before Aidan suggested we retire upstairs for some action...(god was I in for something special)..

Aidan excused himself to the bathroom...Nina turned around and started to DFK me like no other...mind you being French....if this was something she couldn't do...all else would fail....we tongue tied and almost ate each other....jesus...so fucking horny...she stripped me of my clothes and dropped to her knees and started to swallow me....and I mean swallow.....god she is insatiable...Aidan returned smiling and started to caress her body but forced her head deep onto my cock...hearing her gag, but at the same time encouraged her to go deeper and choke and dribble saliva from her mouth....Nina moaning for breathe and loving it all (if she was acting...damn she deserves 30 Oscars...but I think we all knew that this was no act)....

I stared to fingers her responsive pussy with the help of Aidan....a few fingers then all my fist....Nina forcing her cunt onto my hand...then explosion after explosion of pussy juice squirting everywhere....horny....swallowing mouthfuls seemed so easy...seeing her writhing around the bed swallowing Aidan ample cock...me feeding him into her aching pussy...kissing her deeply and getting more and more into a slippery mess seemed like it was inevitable that we DP Nina ...both ramming our cocks as deep as we could...and she was loving it ...spitting and swapping sloppy kisses while she was impaled on us both...Nina just up and sat right on my face releasing torrids of cum into my mouth.....fucking filthy....we fucked in so many positions I lost count....cunt...ass, mouth dp, two cocks in her throat as she almost passed out...

there was wetness everywhere.

we tried to have a break but nina swallowed my fist up her pussy again...squirting constantly to the happy grin on Aidan face...

after so much wild animalistic fucking, bodies writhing...soaking in sweat juices Aidan let ofv and stream of cum into Nina's face and mouth with a little help from me....we snowballed and wiped with glee,,,the rewards...

Nina needed a pee and why let it all go to waste...(I will leave that to your filthy imaginations what went on in the bathroom)..

we returned to the bed and more deep ASS and pussy fucking...cock pulling, ass licking , hairpulling...body worshipping fun....

the moment Nina got under me while yanking my cocking and rimming my ass...was unload time...I fired off a hot stream of spunk al over her face and mouth in which she duely gagged , snowballed and swallowed....Jeez....so fucking sexy...words cannot describe....

aidan is a articulate, sexy, strong charming and lucky man....

Nina has a body that was born to be fucked and worshipped...and I can easily say...she will take some beating...the twinkle in her eye...wants she wants you is something that you have to experience....I would like to think I would be invited back....and will jump at the chance....

1000 out of 10.....

guys it was amazing!!!!phewwww.....still get hard thinking about it...

XXXXXXX


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Friday, 3 January 2014

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We were able to meet a lot of wonderful, sexualy liberated, intelligent and inspiring people along the way. We have had truly great sex, even made some new friends, and generally had a fantastic journey in the past year!

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For this we are grateful and we feel very, very lucky!

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Thursday, 5 December 2013

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The 200 Questions BDSM Checklist (by CEPE)

A fantastic tool to help you consider, discuss and negotiate your BDSM play activities:

"Checklists are frequently difficult to complete due to the complex variety to what we enjoy. When we try to fill them out as Tops, Bottoms, Dominants, Submissives, etcetera there is usually confusion over fetishes that aren't physically interactive between partners or over activities that may not clear as to who is giving and who receiving.

A sincere effort has been made here to reduce this kind of confusion, but bdsm checklists will never be perfect enough that you won't probably have to go to your partner and confer about how to answer at least one item. Take it as a blessing in disguise - a bdsm checklist is only supposed to get a conversation started. That's what the tool is made for.

Remember, it's just a beginning to negotiation, not an end in itself."

http://www.cepemo.com/checklist.html
 
 
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BDSM: A Guide for Nice Guys (by Franklin Veaux)

 So you're a nice guy. You think that people should be treated with respect and courtesy; you find violence, particularly violence against women, reprehensible; you would never, under any circumstances, raise your hand in anger against someone you love. And now your partner is asking you to tie her up, or call her names, or spank her, or maybe even "rape" her. All this goes against everything you believe. What do you do?

For starters, it's not what you think.

The first thing to do is to understand, deep down inside, that it's possible to do these things and still be a good person. While some of these things may superficially resemble abuse, there's an important difference; unlike an abuser, you are doing these things because you both enjoy them, and you're doing them in a way that is safe, consensual, and respectful of her limits and desires.

One way to think about it is that you're playing a role. A person who plays a villain on TV is not actually a villain; and if you and your partner play out roles for your mutual enjoyment, it doesn't mean you're being abusive. You and your partner can play out roles in which you are harsh and demanding and she is your sex slave, and this does not mean that you actually believe women should be subordinate to men.
But I was always taught to treat women with respect!
There is nothing wrong or disrespectful about treating people the way they want to be treated.

Even if the way they want to be treated is not what you're accustomed to.
Not everyone has the same desires, wants, or needs. Treating your partner with respect means treating your partner the way she wants to be treated--even if that means she wants you to treat her like a dirty little minx sometimes. Seriously--if your partner is approaching you with the idea of exploring BDSM, then most likely, there is some part of her which responds very strongly to filling that role.

There is not one "right" way to behave that applies to all people all the time. If something adds pleasure to your life and to your partner's life, then it's not a bad thing, even if it is unconventional. And there's certainly no crime in taking pleasure from bringing your partner pleasure!

There is no rule which says that nice guys can't be adventurous. No law says that nice guys never fuck their girlfriends in the ass or tell their girlfriends to strip and masturbate in front of them. It's about learning what you like, learning what she likes, and creating a scene that brings you both pleasure; being a nice guy means being willing to explore avenues that bring joy to your partner's life!


What kind of guy enjoys doing these things?
The kind of guy who enjoys exploring with his partner and pleasing his partner, of course!

More than that, though; by exploring your fantasies and your partner's fantasies, you create a deep intimacy that's hard to beat. This kind of exploration, and sharing of fantasies and sexual feelings, helps form a bond of intimacy and trust that's at once more romantic and more passionate than you may believe.

And the pleasure to be gained simply from seeing your partner eager to service you and submit to your desires shouldn't be discounted, either...

To do this, though, you may need to unlearn some things about what "nice guys" do and feel. "Nice guy syndrome" can sometimes prevent you from being able to really focus on your partner, and see what she wants; you may see social proconceptions of who "women are" or what "women want" instead. Women are individuals; focus on what the woman you're with wants rather than what "women want."

In extreme cases, "nice guy syndrome" can make you feel uncomfortable seeing your partner as a sexual being at all. But human beings are sexual beings, and it's hard to imagine anyone who doesn't want to be seen as sexually attractive by her mate; seeing your partner in a sexual light is not only healthy, it's an important part of any sexual relationship!
I don't even know where to begin with this stuff...
As with most things, you begin simply. Sex in general and BDSM in particular are learned skills; like all learned skills, you learn by doing. Start slow, learn what you and your partner like and don't like, and elaborate on the things you learn as you go along.
The best way to get started exploring BDSM is by talking to your partner. Discuss your fantasies and her fantasies; don't worry about whether or not those fantasies are things you would really explore or not, or even if they're things that are plausible or feasible. You're just talking about the things that turn you on, no matter how outlandish or how kinky they may be. Don't be timid, embarrassed, or ashamed, even of fantasies that seem extreme or frightening; these are fantasies, after all, not reality. Even extreme fantasies that you would never consider doing in real life can provide ideas or suggestions about places to explore, or things that turn you on!

Let's say, for example, that your partner has fantasies about being tied up and molested. You can start to explore by trying some light bondage or restraint; no need to go all-out, just start by holding her down or tying her arms with ordinary rope. If things go well, you may discover that you want to go farther next time, or you may come up with new ideas to try. And who knows? You may just find that it really turns you on...

At this point, it's probably worthwhile to discuss a few general guidelines as you start exploring this stuff. Some things to remember:

- Don't feel that you have to try everything all at once. Don't do too much, too fast. You have plenty of time! You're exploring what turns you on, what turns your partner on, and what you can create together; it's far better to end a scene thinking you could have gone farther than ending a scene thinking you've gone too far!

- Talk to your partner after you're done, espeically when you've tried something new. Spend some time talking about how you felt, how she felt, what turned you on, and what things you might want to explore later. Remember, whenever you try anything new, you will sometimes find things that you or your partner respond to in ways you didn't expect. You may even find that something you thought you'd like, or something she thought she'd like, triggers a negative reaction that you didn't anticipate. There's nothing wrong with that; you're exploring. By definition, when you explore, you don't always know what you'll find! If you discover something that you don't like, or that didn't go the way you expected, it's okay; you've learned from it, and now you have greater knowledge about how to please yourself and your partner.

- There's nothing wrong with taking pleasure from dominating your partner. If you find that you respond to taking charge in the bedroom, and your partner responds to being dominated, great! You're both happy; enjoy yourselves! Besides, it's much more fun to submit to a person who enjoys being dominant. It works both ways; you can take pleasure from pleasing your partner, and she can take pleasure from pleasing you.

- The greatest asset you have is a sense of self-confidence. It doesn't matter if you don't think you know what you're doing, or if things don't always go the way you wanted them to; it doesn't matter if you're uncertain about something you're trying. All this is normal. What does matter is that you project an air of confidence and control; just this alone can get you through a number of problems. You forget something? Something not working right? Smile and keep going anyway; chances are, she'll never even notice. Remember, you're playing a role; project confidence even if you don't feel it, and you'll do okay.

- Keep your eyes open and your common sense sharp. The best single safety tool you have is your common sense. Watch for problems; don't leave someone tied up unattended, don't try devices or gadgets on your partner if you don't have a sense of how they feel yourself.
But she wants me to spank her! I don't want to hurt her!
Ah, that's a bit tricky. Things are not always what they seem; there's a big difference between erotic pain and ordinary, garden-variety pain. The experience of pain in an erotic context, for someone who's wired that way, is nothing like what you may imagine; it's an incredible rush, that adds a powerful spice to sexual pleasure. Think of it like spice in chili; you might not like taking a bite out of a hot pepper, but in the right amount, it makes the chili a whole lot better...

Even things that look extreme, such as flogging or whipping, can be deceptive. These things don't feel like you imagine they do, and in the right environment with the right warmup, they're wonderful. And once your partner's endorphins, the natural painkilling chemicals produced in the brain, get going, it's the most intense, delightful high you can ever believe.

Of course, pain play is something you want to explore slowly. You don't jump right into it; it takes time and practice to learn where your partner's limits are, and how your partner responds to things like spanking. But don't be so afraid of anything that looks painful--your partner is less fragile than you might think, and in the right setting, pain is both a powerful aphrodesiac and a tremendously pleasureable high. Pay attention, go slow, and you're not going to hurt her. As with many aspects of BDSM, pain is not always what it seems...

If you are worried about hurting your partner for real in a not-fun kind of way, it's easy with a little practice to calm that fear. It's really just question of paying close attention to your partner, noticing the way that she responds, and keeping communication open. When you start out, ask for feedback. Pay attention to what you're doing, and pay attention to how she responds. As you get to know what your partner likes, you'll find that you learn to gauge what you're doing and you learn how much is too much, and how much is "just right."


You can get a bit of my own perspective on pain play, if you'd like, here.
She wants me to boss her around! Men aren't supposed to do that to women.
Men aren't supposed to do that to women non-consensually. Men aren't supposed to assume that they can automatically tell women what to do and expect women to hop to it; that's chauvanistic.

It's not the same, though, when your partner wants you to tell her what to do. In the context of a mutual D/s relationship, it's not chauvanism; it's something you both do because it's fun and enjoyable for both of you.

Sometimes, it's a lot of fun to have your partner say "Okay, I want you to strip and lie down with your legs spread," or whatever. It's fun to surrender to your partner and let your partner call the shots, as long as you both understand that you're doing it because it's a fun way to mix things up in the bedroom rather than because it's something that all women should always do for all men. Remember, if you were to start bossing around every woman you meet, that would be disrespectful; not all women want to be bossed around, after all. But if your partner wants you to boss her around because it's fun, then thre's nothing disrespectful about it; respect is in asking people what they want, and then doing the things that bring them pleasure and bring you closer together.

Whenever you let ideas about what men are "supposed" to do, you run into trouble. The problem with thinking that men are "supposed" to not be in control is the same as the problem with thinking that men are "supposed" to always be in control--it ignores that different women have different tastes and different desires. If there's anything that men and women are truly "supposed" to do, I think it's this: Men and women are supposed to recognize that not everyone is the same, and work together to recognize those differences and make sure that everyone has an opportunity to be happy.
What if she wants me to call her names and humiliate her? That's not respectful!
Humiliation play, like pain play, is another of those things that's not what it looks like from the outside. In a sense, it's the emotional equivalent of pain play; and like pain play, it's all about context. In the right setting, under the right circumstance, with the right person, it can for some people be an intense, white-hot turn-on; and as with much of BDSM play, it's helpful to think about it as playing a role.

Remember, this is something you do because it's something your partner wants. You can, during a BDSM scene, call your partner a dirty, filthy whore, and it doesn't mean that's really how you see her; you're in a role, and you're doing it because it's a turn-on. Outside of that role, you may think your lover is the most exquisite woman ever to walk the face of the earth; the things you do during a scene are not the whole of how you see her in your ordinary, day-to-day life!

And there's nothing wrong with enjoying erotic humiliation, if your partner enjoys it. It doesn't make you a bad person; it doesn't mean you want to degrade women; it means you take pleasure in creating an environment that's arousing and exciting.

This kind of play may seem silly, or awkward, or both, when you first start experimenting with it. You may find it's difficult to say and do things which humiliate your partner, and it might feel forced or contrived. That's a normal part of playing any unfamiliar role. This sort of play, like any skill, becomes easier and more natural with practice.

Don't worry about it becoming something that changes the way you think about women in the real world; like pain play, humiliation play is contextual both for your partner and for you. It's not going to suddenly make you into an insensitive clod. The difference in mindset between exploring humiliation play with a lover and actually believing that women deserve to be degraded is as great as the difference between playing a hit man in a movie and actually being a hit man.
But I still don't know what to do!
The best way to begin is to talk to your partner, and ask her what she might like to try. Here are some ideas to start with:
- If you want to explore bondage, the easiest way to do this is with plain old cotton or nylon rope. Nylon stockings and silk scarves can cause problems, because they tend to bunch and be difficult to untie. You can tie your partner to the bed, to a chair, or simply bind her hands behind her back. Once you have her bound, you can go in a number of different directions. For example, you can kneel over her and tell her to service you with her mouth, or you can penetrate her and have sex with her. Or, you might try sensation play, running your hands or ice cubes or soft cloth or things like that over her body. Blindfolding her can make these sensations more intense. You can add a little bit of light pain play to the mix by pinching, pulling, or twisting her nipples, running your fingernails over her skin, and thinngs like that. Biting her, teasing her with tongue or fingers, and that sort of thing can be a lot of fun too.
- For introductory pain play, spanking, pinching, and biting can be good ways to begin. You might bend her over your lap, or--for a bit more fun--tie her down bent over the bed. You can combine this with roleplaying if you like; perhaps she's a naughty student and you're the disciplining teacher, for example. You can spank her with your hands, a paddle, or even a wooden spoon. Start with light, rapid strokes, and gradually increase the force until you find her limit. Remember, if you start light and build up gradually, you can get those endorphins going, which is exciting and intoxicating!
- Humiliation play can be verbal, or can involve things you do to her, or things you order her to do, or some combination of all three. For example, you can order her to kneel in front of you and give you oral sex while you tell her she's a filthy slut, or you can order her to call herself a slut or beg for sex while you tease her with your fingers and tongue, or you can kneel over her as she lies on her back and tell her to stroke you in her hands until you ejaculate over her body.
- Give her instructions to do things that excite or arouse you. For example, if you enjoy watching her masturbate (and who doesn't?), tell her to touch herself while you watch. You can be as detailed as you want, instructing her how and where to touch herself, and how hard, and how fast, and in what way; you may even enjoy instructing her to moan and sigh as she does. Or, take a different approach. Take her out to dinner, but give her detailed instructions about what she is to wear. Have her wear something that makes her easily accessible--a skirt with no panties, for example. Throughout dinner, keep her aroused by dropping hints about how you can't wait to get her home, and how she's so sexy that you're planning to have your way with her; then, when you get home, bend her over, hoist up her skirt, and take her!
- Surprise her. Mix things up. If you're exploring dominance and submission, try calling her at work one day and telling her to remove her panties, or go into the restroom and touch herself. Or, send her a text message on her phone telling her that you have plans for her and you're going to tie her up when she gets home. If she's at home when you're at work, send her an email with a list of things to do to arouse herself so that she's in the proper state of mind when you get home. If you've been talking about trying something new, create a scene where you're doing something you've done before, then add it in! Or, buy a new toy without telling her, and introduce it into your scene.
- If you run out of ideas, try doing things you've done before, but in a new way or with a new element, or combined with other things you've done. If you enjoy watching her masturbate, try adding a blindfold and telling her to touch herself. Or, make her touch herself as she watches herself in a mirror. Or make her describe how she feels out loud as she masturbates. If you enjoy having her give you oral sex, try tying her hands behind her back and then having her kneel in front of you. The possibilities for combining even simple, basic ideas in novel ways are endless; by doing this, you can keep things new and exciting all the time.
Remember: You're doing this to have fun, to share yourself and your fantasies with your partner, to make your sexual lives more exciting and dynamic, and to increase your pleasure and your partner's pleasure. There's no right or wrong way to do it. Have fun! Experiment! Be creative! And above all, enjoy yourselves!


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What Your Favorite Porn Says About You! (By Stanley Siegel)

"Porn intensely focuses our mental and physical attention, uncovering specific emotions eroticized much earlier in life. Through our sexual fantasies, we attempt to master feelings of powerlessness, shame, guilt, fear and loneliness that have followed us into adulthood.

Encoded in the porn scenes that lead us to orgasm are the psychological antidotes to these feelings. Situating ourselves in humiliating, romantic or risky scenes counteracts painful feelings by turning them into pleasurable ones. Psychologically, this happens outside our awareness, the way blood cells heal a cut finger without our knowing it.

To decode eroticized feelings, look at family dynamics. Childhood conflicts produce strong emotions that never completely disappear. Their impact echoes long into adulthood, woven into our fantasies, even when denied. What arouses us is far from random or meaningless. The porn we choose to watch is dictated by our psychological histories."

READ MORE: http://www.psychologytomorrowmagazine.com/what-your-favorite-porn-says-about-you/

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A Brilliant Map of All Fetishes & Kinks!

A Brilliant Map of All Fetishes & Kinks!

(by Katherine Gates, Author of 'Deviant Desires: Incredibly Strange Sex')

http://www.amazon.com/Deviant-Desires-Incredibly-Strange-Sex/dp/1890451037/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1338578483&sr=8-1


 

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Wednesday, 16 October 2013

'Sex Worker or Therapist?' By Stanley Siegel

By the wonderful & brilliant Stanley Siegel on Psychology Tomorrow Magazine


"Several years ago, a 62-year-old man had a consultation with me a few months after good friends had conducted, let’s say, an intervention on his behalf. Andrew was a pediatrician who had worked nearly his whole life in rural Vietnam,  a demanding job that caused him to sideline other important parts of his life. Now that he had retired, his friends decided Andrew needed help building a sex life. He accepted their rather unconventional assistance.

Andrew told me he always knew he was gay even though until recently he had never had sex with anyone. “For the first time in my life,” he said. “I’ve developed an intense excitement about having sex with men and perhaps even a loving relationship.”

I asked him about the recent sexual experience arranged by his friends.

“They found an escort for me. It was a little like you see in the movies — the father taking his virgin son to see a prostitute to initiate him into manhood. Having done their research, my friends chose well. The young man understood that I was a virgin and was extraordinarily kind, loving and generous with me. I was terrified and overexcited. He handled me perfectly,” Andrew said.

“Since then, I’ve seen Peter weekly. It’s been the most amazing experience. I am learning to appreciate my body as old as it is and I’m also learning the mechanics of sex which I had only occasionally seen in porn movies.

My whole attitude has changed. I feel much more confident about myself and I’ve started to date. I’m so grateful to Peter for what he is giving to me.”



READ MORE: http://www.psychologytomorrowmagazine.com/sex-worker-or-therapist/

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Escort Review: London M/F Bisexual Escort Couple Nina & Aidan

About the Venue     Score: 10/10

Met at a hotel I had already booked - was a nice spacious place with plenty of room to relax - which was just as well as there were 5 of us for a big BDSM gang bang

About Nina_and_Aidan Physical     Score: 10/10

Nina is very cute and her pics do not do her justice. Aidan is quite a hunky guy and has a nice body (and great cock of course!)

Personality     Score: 10/10

Both Nina and Aidan are very easy going and relaxed - they put me at ease as soon as we met and getting it on was no problem at all

Services     Score: 10/10

We had a 5 way BDSM sessionj involving a TS and another guy - we did lots of differnt role play and forced fem / forced bi.

About the Meeting     Score: 10/10

We started out by doing a cuckold scene with Nina as my girlfriend and Aidan as her secret lover - I was made to stand there and watch as he undressed her and started making out. Then I was told to pleasure Nina by tasting her delicious cunt before getting Aidan hard by sucking his big black cock. The TS took me off to get dressed and then humiliated by being brought back into the room in my frilly clothes. I could only watch as Aidan pumped his big hard cock into her tight, wet little pussy. Aidan mouted me and fucked me hard in the arse as I licked out Nina. After a while the T girl came and put her cock into my mouth and then came all over me. Finally Aidan pulled out of me and came too as Nina put on a big strap on cock to fuck me once more.

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Escort Review: London M/F Bisexual Escort Couple Nina & Aidan

About the Venue     Score: 10/10

Nina and Aidan met my friend and I in a comfortable Appartment Hotel that we had booked in North London. It was hot though! Good job we wanted our clothes off. I'm giving 10/10 as the heat in the rooms not their fault!

About Nina_and_Aidan Physical     Score: 10/10

Nina: Very sexy indeed! I was struck by her perfect face especially her eyes and lips. She has a lovely petite figure.

Aidan: Great body and perfect skin. Both great to look at!!

Personality     Score: 10/10

I was quite nervous about our encounter having not had a couple encounter before but as soon as I met them I think all nerves vanished due to the warmth of their personalties. Friendly is an understatement. They both have a huge amount of sex appeal and were great fun and caring too.

Services     Score: 10/10

I had everything and more........They are into so many things as they are so open minded. Just ask!

About the Meeting     Score: 10/10

Nina and Aidan were part of a moresome of six people. Most of my interaction was with Nina and another but l did enjoy the following with both her and Aidan. I was sat on a sofa with Nina riding my cock with Aidan standing on the sofa getting a blow job by the lovely Nina too. I couldn't help but grab his ass and lick is big balls at the same time. I wasn't expecting to be allowed to fist her pussy either.

The way the both spoke and conducted themselves added to the horniness of the whole encounter. The three of us also enjoyed a brief but very sexy role play. Nina was my secretary and Aidan, an important client. If anyone has seen the the film The Secretary you'll recognise the next bit. I had her bent over a desk whilst she read out a letter she had typed to send to the client but she had made lots of spelling mistakes. Every mistake was highlighted in red pen and met with a spank by Aidan. By the way, she has a sexy French accent which is a huge plus. Judging by the smile on her face she enjoyed it.

Other highlights include french kissing them both, Nina telling me to open my mouth and then spitting in it (I wouldn't normally like this but you can't resist Nina) and the 10 cm trail of spit from her lips to my cock mid blow job. They both seemed to have a great time, as did I. Ladies and gentleman these guys are awesome. Do yourself a huge favour and see them.

Thank you again for an amazing time. I want to see you both again........to be continued.

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Lots of Love,

Nina & Aidan

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Escort Review: London M/F Bisexual Escort Couple Nina & Aidan

About the Venue     Score: 9/10

Met at a 4* London hotel I had previosuly booked

About Nina_and_Aidan Physical     Score: 9/10

Nina is a very petite and sexy young French girl - not my type, but more than mdae up for it with her intelligence and pure sexiness!

Aiden is her partner, very easy going and knows eactly what he is doing at every step of the way. Good body, nice cock etc

Personality     Score: 9/10

Both very friendly, put me at ease very quickly. All the dom / sub role playing expectations were fully met - and more!

Services     Score: 9/10

We had a 2 hour dom sub session and it all worked out very well indeed. Often in these session you have people who dont know exactly what to do (or poeople who THINK they know) - but these to REALLY know what's what and gave me a FANTASIC (in the true sense of the word) time!

About the Meeting     Score: 10/10

We all fucked, sucked, came licked and anything else you can think of and more! All of my perverted role plays and scenarios were acted out with passion and skill. These two are that rare breed - a genuine couple who KNOW how to please and WANT to please. No clock watching whatsoever.

They came into my room, well dressed and started on my role play which involved Nina being my girlfriend and me being cuckholded by Aiden. I got to 'prepare' Nina by licking her out and then getting Aiden hard by sucking him. They both fucked infront of me and then dressed me up like a little sissy slut before she sat on my face so Aiden could rape my greedy areshole! This plus many similar scenarios went on until Aiden came inside Nina. I dutifully went down and cleaned up the messy pussy. Afterwards we alls at back and had a drink and a chat!

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Escort Review: London M/F Bisexual Escort Couple Nina & Aidan

About the Venue     Score: 10/10

The couple live in a very pleasant area. Their house is accessible by public transport and the area is very relaxed. This couple have style in abundance and it reflected in their home.

About Nina_and_Aidan Physical     Score: 10/10

They are a very handsome couple, add in the fact that they have a French and German accent and they stimulate all the senses. The pictures on the profile only catch a small part of the attractiveness of Aidan and Nina and none of the naughtiness that shines through their personalities. They were able to put me at easy in minutes and suggest the promise of the delights to come without explicit comment. They had dressed in the blue jeans that I requested and their casual wear was very erotic.

Personality     Score: 10/10

Mentioned above and to reiterate they smile and talk with a grace and charm which bodes well for the bedroom. The experience I expected was far exceeded by the reality. Their easy going attitude and ability to converse with ease made for a very pleasant introduction. I found it very hard to keep my hands to myself.

Services     Score: 10/10

To state the cliche you get what it says in their profile and more with bells on. I felt that if I suggested it and it were possible then they would find a way. This an area of sexual fantasy that stretches the biggest sexual organ your head.

About the Meeting     Score: 10/10

Nina and Aidan have beautiful bodies that naked talk to you. I was soon indulging in stroking, being stroked by Aidan whilst Nina kissed my back. The allure of his cock was too much and given that it is as shown in the profile the senstation of sucking and licking him was fantastic. I was able to live a homo-erotic fantasy that I have had in my head for 40 years. The feelings through my body as Aidan played with me and Nina carressed and kissed me are difficult to quantify but 10/10 is a banal way to describe it. Nina is prepared to allow her body to go with the flow and her encouragement to fill pussy with tongue and hand was awesome. I have never been inside a pussy which is so responsive and her engagement with my cock, balls and arse made me fill her mouth in an explosion. The snowballing that followed was lovely. Aidan was now using his cock on my arse and these exercises soon had me going again. A rest for more talk was followed by an entirely different feel I licked Aidan's cock as he fucked Nina with gusto. The resulting creampie was sensual, thick and tasty. I could not hold back and I came in Aidan's mouth. The two hours flew and I have rarely enjoyed a sexual encounter as much as my time with these two sexy folk. I think that their thirst for fun and abilty to guage the tempo of our adventure means that they would adapt and provide a brand new experience each time. I do not feel that the word dull lives in their vocabulary.

Hope to see you around soon!


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Nina & Aidan

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Escort Review: London M/F Bisexual Escort Couple Nina & Aidan

About the Venue     Score: 7/10

This was a central London basement flat with its own entrance The address had been texted to me when I made the booking so no problems finding it.

I came by public transport so cannot comment on parking.

About Nina_and_Aidan Physical     Score: 9/10

I was met by Nina who was in a PVC dress - one of her favourites she told me. Aidan joined us dressed in leathers. Both were as on their AW entry and were exceptionally clean.

Personality     Score: 10/10

This couple put me at my ease at once. It was great just to chat to them over a glass of wine. It seemed like we had known each other for ages - no awkwardness at all.

Services     Score: 10/10

I had asked for fisting, creampie clean up and watersports. The time went by so quickly that we managed only the first two.

About the Meeting     Score: 10/10

A fantastic experience. They both really seemed to enjoy our time together and we overran the session but by that time I was drained in every way!

The highlight Of my visit must have been fisting Nina (which i did on several occasions). I have large hands but one of them went right in up to my wrist and Nina was still begging for more. A close second was sucking out her pussy after Aidan had dumped his load deep inside - magic. A word too about Aidan: he is such a great guy and sure knows how to suck cock. Also whatever he was doing to my ass whilst I was licking out Nina cannot be put into words. This is definitely one of the best experiences I have had whether from AW or anywhere else. I would definitely strongly recommend them.

I think I have fallen in love with them both!


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Nina & Aidan

07931 311 685
Nina & Aidan - London's Hottest Bi Escort Couple!
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